It’s common for kids (and parents) to lie occasionally, and abuse isn’t the number one reason. However, when lies are detected, they can be dangerous. The bigger problem is that if your child is lying, you may not believe them when they tell the truth. Teaching your child the value of honesty reinforces the importance of personal responsibility, trust, and care.
From the very beginning of school, children lie about all kinds of activities and secrets and with age it becomes easier to lie when children see it as a problem. So if your child lies, tell him the truth and stop doing so.
When do babies start lying?
Children can learn to lie at an early age, usually around the age of three. That’s when kids start to realize that you’re not a smart reader, so they may lie unintentionally.
Even children between the ages of 4 and 6 cheat. They can be very effective at deceiving, linking their facial expressions and tone of voice to what they are saying. If you ask the children to explain what they are saying, that is for them.
As children get older, they are more likely to lie uncontrollably. It is very difficult to lie because children have a lot of information and can judge what other people think.
In adolescence, children often tell obvious lies, so as not to hurt anyone.
Motivate children to speak the truth
If children understand the difference between truth and honesty, they should be encouraged and supported to speak the truth.
You can stress the importance of honesty in the family and help your children understand what happens when they lie.
Here are some suggestions:
1. Talk to your kids about lying and telling the truth. For example, How would he feel if Dad lied to him? or Why would you fool the teacher?
2. Help your child avoid situations that he may think are at fault. For example, if you ask your baby if he is breastfeeding, he may be encouraged to lie down. To avoid this situation, you can simply say, I see something wrong with the milk. Let’s clean it up.
3. Appreciate your child’s mistakes. For example, I’m happy to tell you what happened. Let’s work together to make things right.
4. Be a role model for honesty. For example, I felt wrong today. I asked my boss to fix it.
5. Encourage your child to lie down. For example, the kindergartener might say, My blood is broken. You might say, I wonder why Teddy did this. Keep practicing until you can say it with complete confidence and confidence.
Cheating: How to deal with it.
If your child is lying, the first step is to tell your child that lying is wrong. Your child should know why. You can set family rules around lying.
The next step is to apply the appropriate result. And when you use the result, try to lie and correct the result. For example, if your child draws a picture on the wall and lies about it, these things can result. But if your child is lying to hide a mistake, such as skipping a drink, you can choose to lie behind and clean up.
Here are some tips for dealing with suspected fraud:
- Talk to your sober child about how you feel about lying, how it will affect your relationship with your child, and what happens if relatives and friends don’t trust your child. It’s the contradiction between doing what’s good for your child and dealing with a lie.
- Always tell your child if you know he is not telling the truth. But don’t ask your child if he is telling the truth. Also, don’t lie to your child. If your child thinks he is lying, he may be lying. You might say, You’re so honest. But I can’t even imagine what the last cupcake would get.
- Make it easy for your child to cheat. You can start thinking about why your child is lying. For example, if your child is lying to get what they want, consider a payment plan that lets your child get things.
Children cheat on their parents.
Sometimes children cheat to separate a part of their lives from their parents. Mentally we call him human, which is normal. Sometimes they end up lying about the unknown. This can be a challenge for parents.
And of course, kids are liars when they think house rules are tough and they choose to stay.
If you’re 16, you’re not allowed to wear makeup, but all her friends wear it. So he is dressing outside and lying to you. Lying is a way of making him believe that he is following your rules and still doing normal little things.
Children steal to build their knowledge.
Children can use lies to create information, even if they are not. It can be used to please your friends, perhaps in response to peer pressure. Your child may lie to peers about what he said (or didn’t) because of his low self-esteem. This is normal, and we all see that adults do it differently.
Children steal to see.
If your child is still young, and lying isn’t necessary, this is the way to learn. This is normal. Young children make up stories during mind games. Understand that these are not lies, but a way for them to enter your thinking and make sense of the world around you.
So when a kid says, Mom, I saw Santa Claus fly through the window, I feel very different from the little kid who says, I did my homework. When he didn’t.
Children deceive the feelings of others.
Sometimes, most people know how to handle the truth without hurting the other person’s feelings. If someone asks you if you like their new shoes, and you don’t, you can say, Yeah, they’re better for you instead of being honest.
But kids aren’t as flexible as their parents, so it’s easy to lie. This type of lying is the first step towards a careful study of language. In fact, we teach our kids to lie when we say, Tell them you want a gift, even if you don’t, because it hurts their feelings.
We have good reasons – we don’t want to hurt the missing person’s feelings. But, we teach our children to face the truth. And again, that means you have to apply for these procedures.
Choose Your Fight: Hear the Serious Lies.
I guess it depends on the parent who is more serious and which is not. The biggest lies are security, law or terrorism. So I urge you to choose your battles and look for serious lies.
For example, you might hear your child say to another child, Yeah, I like these clothes, and in the back of the car he says to you, I don’t like these clothes. You can choose to say no to your child, but you can leave him alone if he doesn’t get over it.
But if they lie about something dangerous, legal or safe, you have to correct it. And if it’s sexually transmitted diseases, medications, or other diseases, you may need professional help. So choose your battle.